Below is our current list of books that are all about repairing relationships from infidelity and how to create the best possible connection. Each book is linked to Amazon.com for ease of buying any of the books. We have also listed our own book review for each book, so you can see a detailed analysis of all the books on this list.
Top 5 Books Every Relationship Should Read
This is our list of relationship books that we think all couples should read at some point.
Wired for Love: How Understanding Your Partner’s Brain and Attachment Style Can Help You Defuse Conflict and Build a Secure Relationship by Stan Tatkin PsyD MFT and Harville Hendrix PhD
Wired for Loveis a complete insider’s guide to understanding your partner’s brain and enjoying a romantic relationship built on love and trust. Synthesizing research findings on how and why love lasts drawn from neuroscience, attachment theory, and emotion regulation, this book presents ten guiding principles that can improve any relationship.
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The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work: A Practical Guide from the Country’s Foremost Relationship Expert by John Gottman PhD, Nan Silver
John Gottman’s unprecedented study of couples over a period of years has allowed him to observe the habits that can make—and break—a marriage. Here is the culmination of that work: the seven principles that guide couples on a path toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. Straightforward yet profound, these principles teach partners new approaches for resolving conflicts, creating new common ground, and achieving greater levels of intimacy.
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Love Sense: The Revolutionary New Science of Romantic Relationships by Sue Johnson
Every day, we hear of relationships failing and questions of whether humans are meant to be monogamous. LOVE SENSE presents new scientific evidence that tells us that humans are meant to mate for life. Dr. Johnson explains that romantic love is an attachment bond, just like that between mother and child, and shows us how to develop our “love sense”–our ability to develop long-lasting relationships. Love is not the least bit illogical or random, but actually an ordered and wise recipe for survival. LOVE SENSE covers the three stages of a relationship and how to best weather them; the intelligence of emotions and the logic of love; the physical and psychological benefits of secure love; and much more. Based on groundbreaking research, LOVE SENSE will change the way we think about love.
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Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love by Sue Johnson
In Hold me Tight, Dr. Sue Johnson presents Emotionally Focused Therapy to the general public for the first time. Johnson teaches that the way to save and enrich a relationship is to reestablish safe emotional connection and preserve the attachment bond. With this in mind, she focuses on key moments in a relationship-from Recognizing the Demon Dialogue to Revisiting a Rocky Moment-and uses them as touchpoints for seven healing conversations. Through case studies from her practice, illuminating advice, and practical exercises, couples will learn how to nurture their relationships and ensure a lifetime of love.
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The Relationship Cure: A 5-Step Guide to Strengthening Your Marriage, Family, and Friendships by John Gottman
Gottman provides the tools you need to make your relationships thrive. In The Relationship Cure, Dr. Gottman:
- Reveals the key elements of healthy relationships, emphasizing the importance of what he calls “emotional connection”
- Introduces the powerful new concept of the emotional “bid,” the fundamental unit of emotional connection
- Provides remarkably empowering tools for improving the way you bid for emotional connection and how you respond to others’ bids
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Other Relationship Books
I Love You But I Don’t Trust You: The Complete Guide to Restoring Trust in Your Relationship by Mira Kirshenbaum
In this complete guide, couples therapist Mira Kirshenbaum will also help you understand the stages by which trust strengthens when the rebuilding process is allowed to take place. And you will learn how the two of you can avoid the mistakes that prevent healing and discover how to feel secure with each other again.
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Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love by Amir Levine MD and Rachel SF Heller, M.A
In this groundbreaking book, psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel S. F. Heller reveal how an understanding of attachment theory-the most advanced relationship science in existence today-can help us find and sustain love. Attachment theory forms the basis for many bestselling books on the parent/child relationship, but there has yet to be an accessible guide to what this fascinating science has to tell us about adult romantic relationships-until now.
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The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love by Ty Tashiro
In this playful and informative exploration of the science behind how to choose a great mate, acclaimed relationship psychologist Dr. Ty Tashiro explores how to find enduring love. Dr. Tashiro translates reams of scientific studies and research data into the first book to revolutionize the way we search for love. His research pinpoints why our decision-making abilities seem to fail when it comes to choosing mates and how we can make smarter choices
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An Emotionally Focused Workbook for Couples: The Two of Us by Veronica Kallos-Lilly (Author), Jennifer Fitzgerald (Author)
This workbook is intended for use with couples who want to enhance their emotional connection or overcome their relationship distress. It is recommended for use with couples pursuing Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). It closely follows the course of treatment and is designed so that clinicians can easily integrate guided reading and reflections into the therapeutic process. The material is presented in a recurring format: Read, Reflect, and Discuss. Readings help couples look at their relationship through an attachment lens, walking them through the step-by-step process of creating a secure relationship bond.
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Relationship Books For Healing Affairs
Affair Healing: A Recovery Manual for Betrayed Spouses by Tim Tedder
Affair Healing – A Recovery Manual for Betrayed Spouses brings you Instruction and encouragement from a licensed counselor specializing in affair recovery issues. Your life can (and will) go on! In fact, this guidebook is not just about getting through but getting better. In this guidebook, you will read insights from men and women who have experienced the struggle of survival after an affair.
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You, Him and the Other Woman: Break the Love Triangle and Reclaim Your Marriage, Your Love, and Your Life by Paul Coleman
The phrase ?three?s a crowd? is never more true than when referring to a marriage. Yet affairs affect almost a third of all couples. Wronged women need a place to turn when the situation ?that could never happen to them? suddenly does.In this book, relationship expert Dr. Paul Coleman helps women:
- Process the terrible news
- Confront the unfaithful spouse in the most useful way possible
- Create an effective short- and long-term action plan
- Learn about the nature of love triangles: how they persist and how they disintegrate
- Handle encounters with the other woman
- Decide whether the marriage can be salvaged or not
- Come to a difficult?but crucial?emotional acceptance of the affair
- Rebuild trust in order to heal and move forward should they choose to stay together
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Not “Just Friends”: Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity by Shirley P. Glass
ne of the world’s leading experts on infidelity provides a step-by-step guide through the process of marital infidelity—from suspicion and revelation to healing, and provides profound, practical guidance to prevent cheating and, if it happens, recover and heal from it.
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How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair by Linda J. MacDonald
How to Help Your Spouse Heal from Your Affair offers practical advice for those who’ve strayed and want a second chance. It would take weeks of therapy to learn what Successful Rebuilders know:
- How to avoid the potholes that doom marriages after affairs
- Critical guidelines for the first hours after discovery
- 15 essential steps for repair after betrayal
- Skills to cope with your partner’s obsessions and “triggers”
- Ways to undo the damage from your lies
- The keys to avoid prolonging your spouse’s agony (and yours)
- The difference between helpful and harmful apologies
- How to rebuild your broken life, relationships, and integrity
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Getting Past the Affair: A Program to Help You Cope, Heal, and Move On — Together or Apart by Douglas K. Snyder, Donald H. Baucom, Kristina Coop Gordon
Discovering that a partner has been unfaithful hits you like an earthquake. Long after the first jolt, emotional aftershocks can make it difficult to be there for your family, manage your daily life, and think clearly about your options. Whether you want to end the relationship or piece things back together, Getting Past the Affair guides you through the initial trauma so you can understand what happened and why before deciding how to move forward. Based on the only program that’s been tested–and proven–to relieve destructive emotions in the wake of infidelity, this compassionate book offers support and expert advice from a team of award-winning couple therapists. If you stay with your spouse, you’ll find realistic tips for rebuilding your marriage and restoring trust. But no matter which path you choose, you’ll discover effective ways to recover personally, avoid lasting scars, and pursue healthier relationships in the future.
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After the Affair: Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful by Janis Spring
A staggering number of couples in America—about 70 percent—have been affected by extramarital affairs. After the Affair is the only book to offer proven strategies for surviving the crisis and rebuilding the relationship. Written by Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., a nationally known therapist and acknowledged expert on infidelity, this revised and updated version brings the groundbreaking classic into the 21st century, with a new section dealing with online affairs in cyberspace. For women who are struggling in their marriage—and for clinicians, psychology academics and readers fascinated by of popular psychology—this newly revised and updated edition of After the Affair is essential reading.
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Torn Asunder: Recovering From an Extramarital Affair by Dave Carder
Written by respected pastor and marriage counselor Dave Carder, this revised and expanded version of Torn Asunder sorts through the factors that contribute to infidelity and then maps out a recovery process for both partners. With compassion and wisdom rooted in the Bible, Carder offers insight for the victims of adultery, the perpetrators, and those who seek to help hurting couples.
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Forgive For Good by Fredrick Luskin
Based on scientific research, this groundbreaking study from the frontiers of psychology and medicine offers startling new insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Through vivid example, Dr. Fred Luskin offers a proven nine-step forgiveness method that makes it possible to move beyond being a victim to a life of improved health and contentment.
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The Divorce Remedy: The Proven 7-Step Program for Saving Your Marriage by Michele Weiner Davis
Michele Weiner-Davis goes beyond her marriage-saving bestseller, Divorce Busting, with this empowering and encouraging guide for revitalizing marriage and building stronger, more loving bonds. In a down-to-earth style that is free of psychobabble, Weiner-Davis outlines a realistic, solution-oriented seven-step program for managing marital problems, which, when left unchecked, can drain the life out of a relationship.
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Are there any good relationship books that have helped you that I did not list here? Leave a commit below on any books that you found helpful. You can also check out all our renounces here or read the following book list
Sexual addiction and Pornography Addiction Books
Self Development Books
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